IS IT OK TO HAVE YOUR EX AS A FRIEND?

Far too many people are under the impression that it's impossible to be friends with an ex. Well, I absolutely disagree with that. I'm not saying that everyone can do it but, it can be done. It all depends on the individuals and, the circumstances surrounding their past and current relationship. I met a boy in public school who became my boyfriend. We dated off and on throughout Public School and Junior High School. Though we broke up some where down the line, we still remained friends. Years later, in my adulthood we reconnected and, maintained a friendly physical only relationship while seeing other people but, never while either one of us were in a serious relationship.

This man and I would talk to each other about our trysts with other people as if we never dating at all because we always were and, still are friends. When he was on his way down the aisle, I was invited and went to the wedding. There have been times when his wife and I would chat on the phone or, hang out with no problem. We have also shared events with all of our children getting along just as we did as friends when we first met. Though we've spent many years having physical relations, that time has passed and, we no longer look at each other in that manner. As a matter of fact, we don't even joke about anything sexual, it just doesn't come up. Plus, we respect each other far too much to go that route. If you and your ex truly have an understanding, especially if you broke up on a mutual and agreeable note then, you can actually have a non-sexual friendly relationship with your ex. It can definitely be done.

To this day, a few of my exes and, I are like the best of friends. So, don't let people convince you that having your ex as a friend is impossible. Sometimes, it can actually be a blessing because, they may know things about you that can possibly help you out in the long run. Your ex has been with you so maybe, they're easy to talk to. Or, they may be a fantastic hang out buddy. Don't get me wrong sometimes, having your ex as a friend can be a total disaster. In some instances, an ex may feel as though you're forever theirs. Therefore, showing signs of possessive behavior at the mere mention of you being with someone else. Also, there's the chance of them causing unnecessary trouble between you and, your present partner should they run into you. It's a catch 22 having your ex as a friend.