WHAT CAUSES INSECURITIES IN RELATIONSHIPS?

Too many relationships are ruined because of insecurities and, not enough trust. There are people who actually love with their whole heart and, their entire being honestly. Those are the ones who will love, trust and, may even forgive you for little indiscretions. They love the whole idea of love and, being in love therefore, trying their best to make things work. Then,there are the ones who say they love you and, may actually love to a point but, just have trust issues. Sometimes, being unable to trust someone can come from past relationships or other happenings. But, it can also come purely from of their own guilt. I've seen too many couples who appear to be a match made in heaven on the surface, as the saying goes. But, underneath it all there's nothing but, accusations, disbelief, verbal, emotional and, sometimes physical abuse all because, of the insecurity of one person.

There are times whereas, one feels the overwhelming fear of losing their partner so, Dr. Jekyll rears his ugly head, so to speak. That's when the relationship takes a hard hit and, starts to head downhill. The most innocent people are constantly being accused of doing things they're not doing because, the partner is so insecure. But, what really puzzles me is when a person, male or female is the type who doesn't hang out, only go to the store and back and, stay home with the children all day, every day, what's to be insecure about? Where is the time in between to give your partner something to be insecure about? Sometimes, there are people who cheat on there partners like it's no big deal and, make you feel to blame for the insecurities in the relationship. That person may also have absolutely no problem lying to your face or, making you feel like you're the reason for them cheating. Yet, they will follow you to make sure you're not cheating, isn't that the pot calling the kettle black?

If people actually took the time to pay close attention to what's going on or, not going on in their relationships there'd be less need to be insecure. Also, guilt sometimes play a major part in the overall success or, lack there of in a relationship. People should learn to love, honor and, respect each other in order to maintain a happy, healthy relationship without insecurities.